“Win Your Own Respect First
You can’t make your success contingent on someone else’s reaction. Competing to impress your parents, your spouse, your coworkers, or anybody else will ultimately not be fulfilling. You can’t conform to their every hope and expectation, and you will experience great frustration when you accomplishments prove insufficient to gain their approval.
If you start with a respect for what you can do that depends on no one else, you will have a much easier time tolerating those for whom nothing is enough.
Researchers find that an optimistic personal outlook is more than just seeing the bright side of things. Believing in yourself actually produces increases in good health, motivation, and achievement for six in ten people. Schulman 1999″